The world may define & defend love in these terms, but the Bible offers a very different perspective. For the person practicing the self-centered, feeling-governed, beyond-my-control love of the world, God's definition can be a startling as an unexpected slap in the face.
The world takes us to a silver screen on which flickering images of passion & romance play, & as we watch, the world says, "This is love."
God takes us to the foot of a tree on which a naked & bloodied man hangs & says, "This is love."